The biggest challenge I find with people I coach, agents, home buyers, home sellers, business people, etc., is the self-talk habit. The transition going from bad self-talk to a good self-talk is very challenging for most of them. The self-talk has been conditioned by their environment, relatives, all kind of media – TV, news, etc., and as you can see most of the time it is all negative. So this week I am giving you a short but powerful exercise to help you improve your self-talk.
First, listen to your own self-talk. For the next forty-eight hours, listen to every word of self-talk that you say to yourself. Bad, good, or otherwise, listen to every word you say out loud or silently to yourself or about yourself. Consciously listen to every thought you think to yourself.
1- Listen for both kind of self-talk, negative and positive
2- Listen to the way you respond to problems and the way you react to opportunities
3- Listen to what you say when you talk to yourself
4- Listen to the “self-speak” of others especially the self-talk of your own family members, your close friends, etc.
The next step takes a little work, but if you spend even twenty or thirty minutes doing it, it should prove to be revealing to you.
Next, write down in a sheet of paper, the ten most significant negative self-talk suggestions that you give yourself most often. Remember, these are “negative” self-talk – phrases like, “I can’t…”, “Nothing seems to go right,” or “It is just not my day.”
On my next post I will continue with this subject, “Self-Talk”. As I have mentioned before, this is one of the biggest challenges people struggle with.
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